So I’ve finally figured out why I’m often single, and I’ll share it because it’s interesting.
Most of you know me as the spitfire professional with seemingly endless energy. Okay, with actually endless energy.
It’s true, that’s me in my true form. And that’s too much for anyone to join, for the most part.
But you’d think I could find someone. I’m out and around often enough. For instance, tonight I was at a meeting, and there were ladies-a-plenty.
But people want to chill. Do you know why? Because that’s how people build connection. By chilling.
I know this, but that’s not how I do it. I’ll have fun with people, and once I know they can keep up, and once we have enough shared experience, then I’ll open up.
This is a learned behavior. Moreover, opening up too early is generally not accepted. Instead of talking and asking the cliche bullshit questions that minnesotans do, I’d prefer to have shared expeience. I’ll find out all that stuff later, but really, I don’t need to know everything all at once. I’m patient. Try it sometime. …
So why don’t I chill when I’m with a group a ladies? The truth is, I just don’t want to date or know them on a deeper level. They all come across as low-energy or lame, so I’m just not attracted to them.
