I went to a big social event on Friday with a friend. I thought it would be good for him to meet some new people.
It turns out it wasn’t his kind of event. He doesn’t like dancing and isn’t very outgoing, so he doesn’t really enjoy places where he doesn’t know people.
After touring the castle, he said he was bored.
Then we left. If It was my choice, I would’ve stayed and dance. Those kinds of events are the events at which I tend to start the dance party.
At pretty much any 20s & 30s event with music, I start the dance party. I just dance with one person for a half a song. Eventually another. Sooner or later, someone else joins in. Before you know it, lots of people are dancing or watching. Events I recall are:
- Client’s Christmas party
- Any Deloitte Busy Season HH back on the day
- Social Science (this is the one that ended with 4 couples dancing with crowds in a circle around and crowds on the floor above, all of which erupted in applause when the DJ stopped the music, much like in the resort club in Jamaica with Jae and Danielle)
- I’m sure others, too
Maybe I’m always just the first, but I do have a history of starting some trends.
Anyways, I decided I’m not going to bring that friend to big social events anymore. I actually bought his ticket for that event, too. He’s kind of a downer sometimes.
I was talking with Al tonight. Al is an awesome body builder at my gym who is a wise old man about some things. He is old. In his 60s, I think. Okay, so retired-body builder He’s given me tips on how to increase my definition that have worked. But about this, he just said it wouldn’t make sense to hang out with someone who doesn’t let me be myself. And it doesn’t.
So I’m not going to hang out with that friend at large social events anymore. I can usually find or make friends if I go solo. But I’d much prefer to go with a friend.
So I’m in the market for a new awesome friend. I host events and have a ton of people who know me, but that’s not a great way to make awesome friends. I mean, I’ve made a ton of really good friends, like my bunch of Ukrainian friends. But it’s not anyone who I can go with to lots of events and whatnot.
So I decided to use OK Cupid for not just dating, but to use it to find new friends. For whatever reason, Internet dating isn’t the best for me. I mean, sure it works for lots of people, but for me, it just takes a lot of time. Sure, I’ve had a few longer relationships, but i’m over that being the main finder. I meet 200 people per month. I’ll meet the right person one of these days.
I host events, and those are a pretty natural way to meet me (well, in person, we’ll see about me as the host). The last girl with whom I was talking, I think this second or third thing I said to her was, “I don’t know if we’d be compatible to date until we meet, but I’m also looking for a kick-ass friend. Would you be interested in having a kick ass friend?”
It was a well received note. This was after my first comment of, “I usually get along well with hockey players.” I think she has slap shot in her username.
So that’s my new purpose for the online dating environment.