Category: Theoriness

Theories about life, observations made, and the like – Some may be profound, some may be minute, silly, and not serious. Probably most will be from the latter.

New Friend, New Purpose

I went to a big social event on Friday with a friend. I thought it would be good for him to meet some new people.

It turns out it wasn’t his kind of event. He doesn’t like dancing and isn’t very outgoing, so he doesn’t really enjoy places where he doesn’t know people.

After touring the castle, he said he was bored.

Then we left. If It was my choice, I would’ve stayed and dance. Those kinds of events are the events at which I tend to start the dance party.

At pretty much any 20s & 30s event with music, I start the dance party. I just dance with one person for a half a song. Eventually another. Sooner or later, someone else joins in. Before you know it, lots of people are dancing or watching. Events I recall are:

  • Client’s Christmas party
  • Any Deloitte Busy Season HH back on the day
  • Social Science (this is the one that ended with 4 couples dancing with crowds in a circle around and crowds on the floor above, all of which erupted in applause when the DJ stopped the music, much like in the resort club in Jamaica with Jae and Danielle)
  • I’m sure others, too

Maybe I’m always just the first, but I do have a history of starting some trends.

Anyways, I decided I’m not going to bring that friend to big social events anymore. I actually bought his ticket for that event, too. He’s kind of a downer sometimes.

I was talking with Al tonight. Al is an awesome body builder at my gym who is a wise old man about some things. He is old. In his 60s, I think. Okay, so retired-body builder He’s given me tips on how to increase my definition that have worked. But about this, he just said it wouldn’t make sense to hang out with someone who doesn’t let me be myself. And it doesn’t.

 

So I’m not going to hang out with that friend at large social events anymore. I can usually find or make friends if I go solo. But I’d much prefer to go with a friend.

Continue reading “New Friend, New Purpose”

Inkling

Allowed by some house rules, an inkle is sometimes used in the game 500. After everyone gets their cards, each player goes around the table to make a bet. An inkle is used before an actual bet is made.

For instance, if I have numerous low hearts, plus one high one. plus the left bauer, I may say that I “Inkle Hearts”.

This indicates to my partner, who can’t see my cards and is sitting on the opposite side of the table, that I have a strong hearts hand, either I have a couple high cards, but not enough to make a bet (well, a bet that is not ridiculous or a long shot, which sometimes get made), or that I am long.

The result is that my partner, also holding a decent heart hand, will have the courage to make a bet. If my partner has a decent diamond hand, he or she may make a bet, thinking that I have the right or left bauer. Even by taking just a little action, it’s way better than everyone passing.

An inkle is a way to wink to your partner and to indicate your interest. It’s totally up to them to decide is they want to play on that information, and a lot of time, it just depends on the luck of the deal. It’s all about subtleties and a little indirect communication.

Old people playing 500

 

Responsibility

I have a lot of fun, usually several times per week. Social events, happy hours, dances, and sometimes even kickin’ it with myself or a buddy.

But one thing I never talk about is the large amount of responsibilities I have, and when I say “I do a lot”, people assume I’m just talking about work and social.

While it’s true, my work responsibilities are pretty big. With my business, obviously it’s a lot of stuff, especially once my intern starts. With my job, I’m responsible an increasingly large amount of areas.
I also need to start writing for my company.

Then there’s my house. I don’t live in an apartment or townhouse, so I don’t have services such as sidewalk shoveling. So when it snows, I get to shovel, either when I wake up or before I go to bed, usually the latter.

I have gotten very fast at it. Actually, I’m a total shoveling demon. Compared to last year, now that I’ve had my airway improvement, I can shovel super quickly! Also, the snow is lighter. Of course, I’m not sure if that’s because of more oxygen or increased studly muscles. I’m guessing the former though. Once I get back to lifting weight frequently, who knows?
image

Besides snow shoveling, I have a pretty big house for one dude. It’s just a big area to keep clean. I do a decent job. The areas in which I live are usually spotless.
However, I am an accountant, so paperwork gets out of hand. Always.

In the summer, I love having a yard. Last summer was the first year I started doing any landscaping. It was quite a bit of clean up, and I added lighting.
Next summer, I’m doing quite a few upgrades, mostly in the energy-saving improvements area.

I’m not old, but there’s something to be said about the link between keeping life stable enough to maintain a lot of responsibility and maturity. Things are so awesome these days!

Songs of Life

There are two songs that are important, that should never be forgotten, and that should help shape a person’s mind and personality.

Basically, no one knows what life has in store. Perhaps there are hardships with one’s career. Perhaps that’s life’s way of telling one to do something else, or perhaps that’s life’s way of shaping one, or challenging one, and pushing one to exceed one’s peers in many ways.

The first one everyone has heard, and it simply reminds us to never lose our optimism:

The second one instructs us very clearly to, no matter how hard or confusing things get, always keep a smile. Always stay strong and maintain a positive attitude, if not for you, then for the public and for the people in your life:

The Second Half

After a long time, I hope people learn that I don’t say everything just because I like alliteration:
I am perpetually positive and obstinately optimistic.

It’s not just a fun phrase. It is the core of my being.
I hope you understand the obstinate part now.
When I become appethetic to something, I’m neither optimistic or pessimistic because I don’t think about the outcome because I’m appethetic. People can drive me there. That’s where I am.

The Game-Changer

rality check ahead signBack in the day, this was in the summer of 2013, I was talking to me friend, Kate. Basically, Kate said that everyone has, at some point in their life, a game changer. The game changer is an experience that wakes up a lot of things and advances a person to a better stage of life.

It was obvious to me that I had such an experience, but Kate explained that a person never keeps the good part of the experience. That a person has the experience, it serves its purpose, and it leaves. Being the optimist that I am, I thought that that wasn’t possible, and that I was going to keep all the good parts, too.

It’s like a tech stock. A person can buy it. If they sell it when it goes up a bit, they have a little profit. But they no longer have it. When it goes up a ton more, they don’t get a computer or anything fun! But they learn an important lesson:
Foron’t sell your eggs before they hatch. Have patience, and allow things to appreciate on their own schedule.

I had such an experience, and while I didn’t end up with a winning stock, my life has improved from the lesson. It matured me in a lot of ways, and I got over a lot of things that were holding me back. It was a catalyst to the good things in life.

I had a list of the things that I’ve accomplished, but it just sounded like I was bragging. Let’s just say, I am psychologically awesome, physically awesome, and professionally awesome.

On the physical part, I have worked out and actually had to spend $800  on new business clothes because my chest and shoulders are so broad. I have muscle definition, too. In order to run, breathe, or just not get sick, I got surgery at the end of October. The surgery is the very last thing I have to do to reverse everything from my accident.

All my friends know, I am perpetual in nature, because I used to bug them. The follow ups and the shout outs are just easy. I used to have too much time on my hands. Plus, I’m a communicative gentleman. Yes, I have to hold my horses before I communicate a lot with a lady.

However, I figured out how to chill better. I don’t communicate all the time. It’s awesome because I tend to get better responses.

Life has been great to have given me such an experience while I was young and for waking me up so I could man up.

Relax

I’ll finally be able to calm down and take a deep breathe. My apologies to anyone who knew me back before I could do so.
To the public eye, I may appear unchanged, but if you take the time to get to know me, you’ll learn how great of a person I am especially now that I can sometimes just step back and take a deep breath.